Create healthier relationships, foster deeper connection.
Online Individual Therapy for Relationships
In NYC, all of New York, and California
Relationships are hard. No matter if you’re in one, searching for one, or ending one.
When they’re going well it makes dealing with all of the other difficulties in life feel more manageable. You feel more resilient, supported, and connected. But when your relationships are suffering, it can feel like you’re on a deserted island all by yourself and every other problem or daily stress feels amplified.
You’re used to being the one always giving to others, taking care of things, and getting the job done. It feels good to show your love through caring for others- until you find yourself feeling depleted, resentful, and wrung out when the favor never seems to be returned.
You’ve only ever known relationships or family to look a certain way. Where despite the apparent love they often still hurt, leaving you feeling wounded, like an outsider, or the one who’s the problem.
Relationship issues can show up in a variety of ways.
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Having the same fights on repeat that never feel resolved.
Not feeling supported, cared for, or understood by your partner.
Questioning whether to stay together, take the next big step, or part ways.
Interactions feel transactional, caught up in life management, or keeping score.
You’ve lost the spark, intimacy, and connection that used to bring joy and comfort.
Being on different pages regarding things like finances, kids, parenting, or sex.
Feeling distant or withdrawn from each other, one or both of you feel emotionally or physically absent.
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Being afraid to put yourself out there and open up to new people.
Struggling with a recent breakup that feels overwhelming and hard to move on from.
Not knowing what you want in an ideal partner or what a healthy relationship looks like.
Constantly attracting the wrong type of person for you or getting into unhealthy relationships.
Worrying you’ll never be in a healthy, happy relationship or afraid you’ll end up alone forever.
Struggling to break your unhealthy relationship patterns or behaviors despite knowing what they are.
Ambivalence about dating, being partnered, or whether you want kids and wanting to explore what’s going on.
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Feeling anxious and scared of rejection, leading to social isolation.
Struggling to say no, set boundaries, and honoring what you want or need.
Feeling more like a parent to one of your own parents while growing up, and not getting enough of your emotional or physical needs met.
Experiencing emotional neglect, abuse, abandonment, or trauma that was never fully addressed or resolved.
Not being comfortable opening up emotionally or vulnerably with those closest to you for fear of judgment.
Having a strong inner critic that hijacks your brain in social interactions and stops you from connecting or communicating your experience.
After a while…
You end up channeling more of your focus and energy into the things you have more control over like work or other projects. Ultimately, this disconnects you even further from building the deeper connections you crave and leaves you even more burnt out. You’re left going through the motions of life, but feel like you’re not really living it.
What’s clear is how much you want things to look and feel better now. I’m here to tell you there is another way.
How therapy for relationships works.
When your relationships feel more secure and connected, you feel more empowered, courageous, and safe to be your authentic self. Imagine feeling comfortable speaking openly and directly with your loved ones and getting more of your needs met.
How might you show up differently if you felt supported, cared for, and understood?
Therapy with me is like a training ground for all of your relationships…
Because the relationship you and I have will be a place where we can practice and learn new skills together. We’ll do this in part by explicitly checking in on our relationship in the room to see how things feel and make adjustments as needed.
My approach is grounded in helping you explore the roots of the issues in your relationships across the board: with yourself, others, and the various components of your life such as work, money, family, etc. And then practicing how to show up in new and different ways that better support your needs and the needs of your relationship.
Using a blend of attachment theory, mindfulness, and somatic work we’ll practice exploring both sides of a relationship and what it’s like to give as well as receive. You’ll learn to be more present in the moment and in your body, all while staying in connection.
The hallmark of this work comes from Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), where the goal is to help you undo feelings of aloneness and isolation while building deeper connections and confidence in your ability to create healthier relationships that better serve you going forward.
What you’ll gain
Therapy for Relationships can help you
Learn effective communication skills to feel heard, supported, and understood.
Practice how to set healthy boundaries with others.
Learn to feel safe being vulnerable and opening up emotionally to those you care about.
Deepen trust, connection, and intimacy with your partner, friends, and family.
Prioritize your needs and wants so you can find a healthy balance with your partner.
Learn how to work through conflict in healthy ways without blowing up or shutting down.
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Your relationships are worth investing in.
FAQs
Frequently asked questions
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The main difference is that individual relationship therapy is focused on you and your experience and role in relationships, rather than working with you and a partner simultaneously.
This also means we are likely to talk about all the various types of relationships you have in your life beyond romantic to include your relationship with family, friends, kids, colleagues, bosses, work, money, and any other type of relationship you have.
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I do not provide couples therapy, though I am happy to give you some referrals for couples therapists. I believe there is great value in having both a couples therapist and an individual therapist if that is something you can make that work.
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Healthy relationships are an important component of your overall mental, emotional health, and wellbeing. Some signs your relationships are healthy are if you:
Feel loved and accepted being your authentic self.
Can mutually respect boundaries and feel comfortable saying no.
Work to repair and reconnect after conflict and learn from the experience.
Have built a foundation of mutual trust over time, where trust is earned.
Can agree to disagree and still respect each others opinions, both can be true at once.
Feel safe to openly communicate how you feel and know you will be met with respect, non-judgment, and a desire to understand.
Can co-regulate with your partner, when one person is activated the other will act as a calming source to help ground and provide safety.
Are interdependent from one another: you enjoy spending time together and feel strong in your bond and also maintain a separate sense of self.
Feel safe to enjoy physical intimacy and can bring playfulness and communication to intimacy needs or desires
Are both committed to working on the relationship, and recognize that relationships take work.
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